Kera di hutan disusukan anak di pangkuan mati kelaparan= pleasing outsiders at the expense of one’s child
Such parent who likes to please others at the expense of his/her own flesh and blood is a weak parent. Most probably he/she is an offspring of a narcisssist. Such offspring tends to please and put others first.
In such situation, the one who suffers the most is the child. Eventually the child leaves such parent for good.