Deborah j Hill
Crisis and the Classroom : A Practical Guide for Teachers
By Hill, Deborah J.
Publisher : Charles C Thomas Pub Ltd
Published Date : 2003/03
ISBN : 9780398073633
After the Director, the second most important role in the dysfunctional family is “The Enabler”, most likely the spouse. Enablers allow dysfunctions to carry on by becoming helpless victims themselves. They turn a blind eye to violence, addiction, incest, or any one of a number of shameful secrets, either unconsciously or because they choose to be oblivious. If the Enabler is also an alcoholic, they may not be conscious enough to see what is going on, or they may use the shameful secret as a good excuse to drink or overeat. The Enabler is likely to be passive, accommodating and easily coerced or convinced. They probably are not in touch with their feelings or beliefs and thus give up their power to intervene. The Enabler may be handicapped in other ways, such as depression, inertia, insecurity or neurosis, thus making them unavailable to assist and rescue the child.